An example of how cheating begins

What type of cheater are you?

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Trying to have a smooth night

“Why don't you hold my hand?” Asked Daisy, I start to think damn a lot of people come to the mall, maybe I should wait until we get inside the movie theater. What if someone I know sees me and tells my girl!  Oh well, we watched a movie and I had to change the settings on my phone because it kept vibrating! (Little advice: tell your girlfriend you’re sleepy and that you’re going to bed early before heading to the movies.) The trailers are still playing and I’m getting messages left and right. I’m starting to panic so I decide to tell Daisy that I’m going to buy soda and popcorn so that we can enjoy the movie better. Now in wasting $15 just to cover up and tell my baby good night.

After the movie I start throwing options because I didn't want the night to end just like that. I think to my self-what can I do that'll make her say damn he’s so sweet/romantic. Besides the fact that the night was still young, I wanted to keep spending some time with her because we were both enjoying each other’s company so much. A Stroll down the beach sounded perfect. So I thought of somewhere that I could take her and the place we went to was just right. Full moon, lounge chairs and even music can be heard from a nearby bar, we were having a blast at this point. But once again I get a call and text from my girlfriend. It practically ended the night because she continued to call and text nonstop so I decided to call it a night and took the other girl home.

This is a story that happened to a person that I know, and he was to remain unknown because if he was to get caught, it wouldn't be pretty for him at this point in his relationship. Sometimes people are trying to the impossible to spend time with someone that isn't even their significant other, rather than actually spending that time and energy on the ones that they truly love and love them back as well. 

Ask to make sure

Question is it really cheating when you're single and you’re talking to 3 girls and may have scammed/hooked up with each one? Let me tell you about this one time at Band Camp. Let’s just say 2 of these ladies were heartbroken recently by assholes. They were looking for a fun time and I guess I was at the right place at the right time.  Now this wasn't any crazy fantasy or anything, it was just 3 beautiful days of my life. It was as if they all wanted me for themselves and at the same time. The one that caught my attention the most was the one which was very funny and for some reason I didn't get bored of hanging out with her. I wish I could say her name but it is just too risky.

I had to try to avoid all of them from meeting each other and just pretended as if I was just friends with them, when in reality I had a thing with each of them. So is it really cheating if I’m technically not officially dating any of them but still mess around with other girls? When we go by the rules, I am free to do what I want because I am single and that means I have no restrictions of whom and when I can talk to someone and that other person can’t get mad because she knows I’m right. If we put our values and morals into play, yes this would be something wrong to do but it wouldn't fall under the category of cheating. This is where everyone decides whether it is cheating or not based on their beliefs and experiences.

Maybe next time if this is one of your issues, why don’t you be upfront with the person and ask them the rules to the game, that way she won’t get mad if she finds out or so you won’t think about fooling around with other girls, just to be safe with her and not lose her. 

Why men might cheat?

Most men cheat on their partners but that doesn't mean that all women are saints either. However when women cheat, for some reason most of the time they have solid reasons to do so, men on the other hand are just in it for the heck of it. Let me tell you why men cheat on their partners and I will also give you a slight understanding of what goes through inside their head. 

Men can cheat on you if they feel sad or unhappy because of the relationship that they are in or still cheat on you if they are the happiest man alive and content with their present relationship. Why? It’s just simply because they are men. It’s obviously no excuse but that's just the reality. I'm not saying that there aren't men out there that actually don't cheat, because there are, and congratulations to them. Thanks to those guys, women still have hope to find "the one" and that's what makes them stand out of the bunch.  

A guy will cheat on you no matter how tight you have the leash on him. Although men are constantly cheating, I believe that sometimes it’s the other women's fault. A guy will cheat when the opportunity seems to be too easy to pass especially when the plate is served and ready to eat with no problem. Another reason maybe because they aren't satisfied with their relationship so they seek to find someone else that can satisfy their need or just make them feel more comfortable with no drama around them. Then comes temptation, which kills a guy because most of them can't control themselves sober so imagine being tempted under the influence. The only thing above temptation would be the idea of getting caught in the act of cheating. Sometimes the men love the feeling of doing something which is totally wrong and inappropriate because it brings a certain rush to them that makes them feel like a "bad ass". 

No matter what the circumstance is, it is very probably that a guy can cheat on their partner, especially if the girls are flirting and looking for him to cheat with them. But like i said, not all guys are like that. Everyone has their own personality and acts based on it. Some guys may have been cheaters but now have changed their ways either to better themselves as a person or because they have found a girl that can change their mentality into knowing that it’s something wrong to do and isn't worth doing when you're hurting the one you care for. Men will be men but just remember that some choose to change and others simply don't give a shit.

Where is the courage at?

If the thought of cheating pops into your head while you are in a relationship that only means that the relationship you are in is pointless or that you have lost hope in thinking that the relationship will actually go somewhere. Some people just need to find the courage and will to either say it to their partners face or if not just break up with them to know that you are doing the right thing and have your mind set in the right place. Relationships now are not taken seriously that's why people go around cheating and the ones that are actually committed are the ones that suffer and end up turning into a cheater because they have lost hope and learned by their experiences that that they should no longer trust anyone else. 

I think sometimes if you’re in a relationship and things are going wrong, you need to take a walk or just sit by yourself and think to yourself what it really is that you want from the relationship and why it is that you got into it in the first place. Most important thing is to think for yourself no matter how selfish that sounds because I guarantee you that the other person is making decisions based on how it will benefit them. Just think about everything a for a minute be an ignorant to all your feelings and actually realize what it is that you "should" do even if it hurts you but actually do it to better yourself as a person and to feel better because no one deserves to be unhappy and especially when they are feeling like that with the person that supposedly makes or made them happy. 

My advice to all of you is to always make choices based on your values. I'm not one speak because I have made choices that go against my values but the difference now, is that I have realized to stop doing that and i actually know better now which is making me get better at making my choices but i myself am not perfect. So if cheating is popping into your thoughts, take a minute to think about what you want and what you should have or be doing. Sometimes without cheating on your partner your still cheating on yourself and that my friends is the worst cheating of all! We all know what we are worth and what we deserve; next step is just growing a pair and having the courage to make it happen.

100 % SURE

Like I said before and ill go ahead and say it again! When someone hears the word "cheating" negative things comes to ones mind. I can relate to this because for me the word cheating ended a relationship that I once had with a special girl. Let me start off by saying that if you are going to accuse someone of cheating, you either better have the facts ready to be shown on the table or  you better have seen it happen with the two eyes that god gave you! I was accused for cheating on my partner at the time, with some other girl that  I believed would not even come close to entering the picture of making sense as to how and why I would cheat and especially with that girl. She even broke up with me and made it seem as if she was 100% sure that I had cheated on her. This news was given to me by surprise when I wasn't even back home, I was at North Carolina and not even by her. The fact that she didn't even try finding out the truth or talking with me about it, before even making a decision made me mad. She still ended up breaking up with me thanks to stupid rumors that she had heard from her "close friends".
This was obviously not true because I didn't really cheat on her but according to her and her dear friends I had.
Cheating always takes any situation and turns it into a bad one. If you aren't 100 % sure that your partner or anyone else has cheated, then please remain your mouth shut. You not only ruin other peoples lives but sometimes even your own.