Why men might cheat?

Most men cheat on their partners but that doesn't mean that all women are saints either. However when women cheat, for some reason most of the time they have solid reasons to do so, men on the other hand are just in it for the heck of it. Let me tell you why men cheat on their partners and I will also give you a slight understanding of what goes through inside their head. 

Men can cheat on you if they feel sad or unhappy because of the relationship that they are in or still cheat on you if they are the happiest man alive and content with their present relationship. Why? It’s just simply because they are men. It’s obviously no excuse but that's just the reality. I'm not saying that there aren't men out there that actually don't cheat, because there are, and congratulations to them. Thanks to those guys, women still have hope to find "the one" and that's what makes them stand out of the bunch.  

A guy will cheat on you no matter how tight you have the leash on him. Although men are constantly cheating, I believe that sometimes it’s the other women's fault. A guy will cheat when the opportunity seems to be too easy to pass especially when the plate is served and ready to eat with no problem. Another reason maybe because they aren't satisfied with their relationship so they seek to find someone else that can satisfy their need or just make them feel more comfortable with no drama around them. Then comes temptation, which kills a guy because most of them can't control themselves sober so imagine being tempted under the influence. The only thing above temptation would be the idea of getting caught in the act of cheating. Sometimes the men love the feeling of doing something which is totally wrong and inappropriate because it brings a certain rush to them that makes them feel like a "bad ass". 

No matter what the circumstance is, it is very probably that a guy can cheat on their partner, especially if the girls are flirting and looking for him to cheat with them. But like i said, not all guys are like that. Everyone has their own personality and acts based on it. Some guys may have been cheaters but now have changed their ways either to better themselves as a person or because they have found a girl that can change their mentality into knowing that it’s something wrong to do and isn't worth doing when you're hurting the one you care for. Men will be men but just remember that some choose to change and others simply don't give a shit.

Where is the courage at?

If the thought of cheating pops into your head while you are in a relationship that only means that the relationship you are in is pointless or that you have lost hope in thinking that the relationship will actually go somewhere. Some people just need to find the courage and will to either say it to their partners face or if not just break up with them to know that you are doing the right thing and have your mind set in the right place. Relationships now are not taken seriously that's why people go around cheating and the ones that are actually committed are the ones that suffer and end up turning into a cheater because they have lost hope and learned by their experiences that that they should no longer trust anyone else. 

I think sometimes if you’re in a relationship and things are going wrong, you need to take a walk or just sit by yourself and think to yourself what it really is that you want from the relationship and why it is that you got into it in the first place. Most important thing is to think for yourself no matter how selfish that sounds because I guarantee you that the other person is making decisions based on how it will benefit them. Just think about everything a for a minute be an ignorant to all your feelings and actually realize what it is that you "should" do even if it hurts you but actually do it to better yourself as a person and to feel better because no one deserves to be unhappy and especially when they are feeling like that with the person that supposedly makes or made them happy. 

My advice to all of you is to always make choices based on your values. I'm not one speak because I have made choices that go against my values but the difference now, is that I have realized to stop doing that and i actually know better now which is making me get better at making my choices but i myself am not perfect. So if cheating is popping into your thoughts, take a minute to think about what you want and what you should have or be doing. Sometimes without cheating on your partner your still cheating on yourself and that my friends is the worst cheating of all! We all know what we are worth and what we deserve; next step is just growing a pair and having the courage to make it happen.

100 % SURE

Like I said before and ill go ahead and say it again! When someone hears the word "cheating" negative things comes to ones mind. I can relate to this because for me the word cheating ended a relationship that I once had with a special girl. Let me start off by saying that if you are going to accuse someone of cheating, you either better have the facts ready to be shown on the table or  you better have seen it happen with the two eyes that god gave you! I was accused for cheating on my partner at the time, with some other girl that  I believed would not even come close to entering the picture of making sense as to how and why I would cheat and especially with that girl. She even broke up with me and made it seem as if she was 100% sure that I had cheated on her. This news was given to me by surprise when I wasn't even back home, I was at North Carolina and not even by her. The fact that she didn't even try finding out the truth or talking with me about it, before even making a decision made me mad. She still ended up breaking up with me thanks to stupid rumors that she had heard from her "close friends".
This was obviously not true because I didn't really cheat on her but according to her and her dear friends I had.
Cheating always takes any situation and turns it into a bad one. If you aren't 100 % sure that your partner or anyone else has cheated, then please remain your mouth shut. You not only ruin other peoples lives but sometimes even your own.

One time

One time, one slip into a bad decision and one moment can happen that you will always regret for the rest of your life. The only one time I cheated on my girlfriend for making a horrible decision, was also the time when I got caught, but I’m happy I did. Temptation got the best of me and my thoughts were not at the right place in that moment. I honestly can say that’s not the type of guy that I am but to me what made it so much easier to cheat was the fact that the other girl made the situation seem as if it was something ok to do and she instigated for it to happen. Obviously I’m the one that messed up by even putting myself in that situation in the first place and for cheating on the girl that I love with all my heart with no disregard at all, I didn't even think about her feelings or her period when this was all happening. Am I a bad person, should I not be forgiven? Everyone makes mistakes and this was that one time where I fell and fell really deep. There comes a point where you know you can ask for forgiveness but you are so aware of what you have done that you don’t even want your partner to forgive you at all! This is how I felt during this time period where my girlfriend broke up with me for finding out that I cheated on her. By now you are all thinking I probably slept with this girl or something exciting happened with her, but let me break it to you that I only kissed her. One kiss ended my relationship for the stupid decisions that I was making. I wanted my girlfriend to forgive and I wanted to explain to her what had happened and let her know how I felt. She didn't even want to talk to me, see me, and respond to text or calls and worst of all acted as if I was dead. This killed me and broke my heart as well! However I knew she had all the reason in the world to be acting how she was acting with me. This was one of the times in my life that I felt like shit and the only thing I could do was keep insisting that she will talk to me and hope that we would be able to somehow work this out.

Just to let you guys know, this was not my story, this did not happen to me, but it happened to a very close friend that I have. In the beginning I said it happened to me because as his friend I felt like I was going through that big struggle along with him and all I can do was also hope that he could overcome that time period in his life.

Sometimes you have to admit you messed up and not only hope for the best put make sure the best happens and either recover your partner or just move on with your time.

Always make sure to take that one moment and make it the perfect moment for yourself!

Jealous type

One of those nights? When it comes to the subject of cheating, it’s a very sensitive topic to touch especially when it comes down to the people who are the jealous type. One night for them can be "one of those nights". That means it could be a night where they are constantly losing the control over their mind, emotions and their feelings are getting the best of them from both positive and negative ways. If you are a jealous type of person, then I guarantee the word cheating is one of the top words in your vocabulary/dictionary. You may always be thinking the worst of your partner and how they might be cheating on you. Let me tell you something. If your partner is going to cheat on you or wants to cheat on you, they will definitely cheat on you! Regardless of how much you try to keep him or her on check, they will still pull it off! No matter what you say or do it will make no difference. Please get that through your head if you are a jealous type or even for those who aren't. It’s a common rule that you must know to not go crazy. At the end of the day they are the ones messing up, not you.

So if your that jealous type that is going through pain or your thoughts are playing tricks on you, just take a deep breath and know that it is only once that you live and you better spend most of it smiling. No matter what the situation is, always keep your head up and smile. Hopefully this can help you out and you can learn to control your body, mind and soul.

Emotional or Physical cheating?

Emotional or physical cheating, have you made up your mind yet?  It doesn't mean one hurts more than the other, it’s just the fact that you knowing which one it is puts a specific image or idea in your head that slowly kills you. Who cares if someone cheats on you or Vice versa right? Hopefully you questioned by question because it would be ridiculous not to care if someone cheated on you or if you cheated on someone. However there is always a reason for the cheating incident to take place. There are no actions without motives. There will always be that one thing to inspire you to do something in particular, as in this case, to cheat. Some people cheat just for the sexual satisfaction, others just do it to get back the feeling of satisfaction as a human being and comfort. They have grown to miss that special feeling so much that even though they know it’s wrong of doing, they still might do it for the butterflies that were long time missing in their stomach. Is it their fault? Who knows, some things are just meant to be mysteries, but something we do know for sure is that there was or is a reason for that specific action. Maybe you can say it’s something unique or something as abstract as a sculpture. Like art, it all depends on how you view it, absorb it and feel it. Don’t be judging anyone for their actions related to cheating because maybe one day you might fit the same shoes and will probably then know what it feels like to be in that situation. At that point is where you will realize why that person made those decisions.

So just how we all make our own decisions based on the reality of that moment, we should also let everyone else make theirs. Something we shouldn't forget is to never make decisions or pick what you think is better for someone else at any point in time, because once you start thinking for the better of someone, that’s when you start caring for them. And once you start caring for them, that’s when you have no clue where “cheat” stands in that situation. Sometimes it hits you right in the face or if not it just disappears as if you had no clue it even existed any more.

So do you still care about which cheating category you fall under or is the new question now, why did the categories fall under me?

Would you be mad?

If you are in a relationship and find out your partner cheated on you, would you be mad? Maybe that’s a stupid question after all. But would it make a difference to how angry you are if you found out which type of cheating it was? Either a one night stand or instead it was actually a very connected emotional relationship that your partner began to have with someone else but with no physical touching. As a normal person in the heat of the moment you would get furious and would just pay attention to the simple fact that you found out that they cheated. Afterwards you would want to listen to the details and by then you would be able to answer that question.

For most people “physical cheating” is the official way of cheating, anything less would just count as something normal. This is why people do what they do because they have a mindset that lets them feel as if they are not really cheating unless they do something physical.

If you believe physical cheating is the one that is worse than emotional then that’s your opinion. But what if your partner really just made an honest mistake and wants to change? That’s where you have to decide whether or not you are going to believe them or just move on. It is said that “once a cheater, always a cheater” but that is not 100 percent true. Just always try to remember to never make choices or promises when you are too happy, too sad or furious. Breathe and let everything go with the flow, because at one point in your life you will know for sure that all things happen for a reason.