Where is the courage at?

If the thought of cheating pops into your head while you are in a relationship that only means that the relationship you are in is pointless or that you have lost hope in thinking that the relationship will actually go somewhere. Some people just need to find the courage and will to either say it to their partners face or if not just break up with them to know that you are doing the right thing and have your mind set in the right place. Relationships now are not taken seriously that's why people go around cheating and the ones that are actually committed are the ones that suffer and end up turning into a cheater because they have lost hope and learned by their experiences that that they should no longer trust anyone else. 

I think sometimes if you’re in a relationship and things are going wrong, you need to take a walk or just sit by yourself and think to yourself what it really is that you want from the relationship and why it is that you got into it in the first place. Most important thing is to think for yourself no matter how selfish that sounds because I guarantee you that the other person is making decisions based on how it will benefit them. Just think about everything a for a minute be an ignorant to all your feelings and actually realize what it is that you "should" do even if it hurts you but actually do it to better yourself as a person and to feel better because no one deserves to be unhappy and especially when they are feeling like that with the person that supposedly makes or made them happy. 

My advice to all of you is to always make choices based on your values. I'm not one speak because I have made choices that go against my values but the difference now, is that I have realized to stop doing that and i actually know better now which is making me get better at making my choices but i myself am not perfect. So if cheating is popping into your thoughts, take a minute to think about what you want and what you should have or be doing. Sometimes without cheating on your partner your still cheating on yourself and that my friends is the worst cheating of all! We all know what we are worth and what we deserve; next step is just growing a pair and having the courage to make it happen.